Dinner With Family (Dreams and Reality)

[Dorothy Stahlnecker]

Doing what you always wanted to do


Do you have friends that are scared to death to attempt things they’ve always dreamed about doing with their lives and never did? Yesterday some women in our family decided to meet for dinner in a restaurant for no specific reason our ages were from 27 to me the oldest 62 and the selected restaurant was the Melting Pot in a mall we had our own room as there were 7 of us.

Most of us had never been to a restaurant who served appetizers to desserts with fondue pots across the center of the table so the experience was new and entertaining. We selected food we could all share started eating and drinking and before you knew it we were laughing and talking about sex, love, and marriages which of course means we were discussing our partners’ husbands and friends enjoying ourselves so much my sister piped up and asked why we had taken so many years to do this as it was our first time together for no reason at all. At that moment each of us looked perplexed and I know we all wondered why you don’t do things like this as they end of being so worth the effort and yet so few of us will make it happen. I told my sister I thought part of it was because we were busier before this time in our lives and she wouldn’t let me off the hook reminding each of us we were just as busy today as many years ago and we just hadn’t done it thus why don’t we do attempt things we always dream of doing? This simple night out with the young and old ladies became special and important to the family and I wondered if we’d do this again in the near future as each of us seemed to feel the same way.

Safe Sex today at 14

Moving right along one of my topics during this fabulous dinner was information shared to me by a 14 year old boy who told me about the latest type of sex kids were having today and how they didn’t have to worry about getting pregnant believing it was the new form was safe sex (Think former President Clinton) and beyond. I thought the waiter was going to drop his big tray as I was detailing what I’d been told and hadn’t seen him enter the room therefore he heard a few of the details of my conversation. While I was having this conversation I tried not to look horrified although I must confess I was. However I wanted to know more about this subject even though inside I was shaken and wondering how I could give guidance if possible while praying he couldn’t see how stunned I was by the look on my face. I asked him if I could write about this on grammology our blog and he said if I didn’t use his name I could as he knows we share our thoughts and experiences as grandparents, moms, and family hoping it will help other parents know what there children might be doing or thinking today so I promised I would do so and not give any idea of who he was.

So concerning my topic of safe sex I’ll be back for part two if you’re interested and regarding doing what you always wanted to do make some plans soon for a mini vacation you’ve been thinking about or call an old friend and go to dinner. However if your thinking bigger in your dreams taking the first step and making it small is all you have to do to start accomplishing something you’ve dreamed about forever. Dinner was the start for us getting together to have fun our next big visit will be an overnight at my house when my husband goes on a (guy) trip to an auto race in May however we’ll plan more dinners in between so we don’t get out of the routine of getting together and having fun and during the next feast we’ll talk about each others dreams and determine how we can work on our them as a family helping each other accomplish something they’ve thought about and maybe never even shared with anyone until now and encourage each other to go for the brass ring united with our support.

And regarding the safe sex issue with young kids today I’ll write a post on that subject soon and if you think it’s not happening or are sensitive to the subject consider this the waiter after hearing me talk shared a story regarding his sister who is a Physical Ed teacher in a local school around her and told us last week they caught two freshman having sex in the school bathroom the school was also surprised and taking action as to how to prevent this kind of incident. Consequently you can be angry disgusted or like us looking stay informed as to what might be happening in your children’s or me grandchildren’s schools and consider what you’d like to do to help the kids make better decisions regarding these issues they may face everyday.

Thanks for listening and I hope you are able to follow or fulfill one of your dreams because you read this story today and made some plans for this week that will be fun and something you’ve meant to do. And if you’re wondering how I came to have my conversation with a fourteen year old I’ll share that in part two as well (To be continued because I think you may need to know this stuff).

My best Dorothy
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